There's no questioning the greatness of certain athletes. From somewhere in the mix of sweat and torn muscles, the meditation of constant practice, their extraordinary discipline, they are formed. Short careers and extreme adulation, they are cast as role models and sports agents show them the money. I love the possibilities of a human to reach beyond good, to endure pain, to focus. I love that Michael Jordan was not accepted on his high school basketball team and that every day he practiced. Practiced to achieve the perfection of an athlete.
Johnny Weir is a great athlete who loves wearing flamboyance, whilst appreciating the work of Chanel, Balenciaga, Lanvin, and designs his own costumes. His personal collection of Balenciaga bags in every color reduces me to awe, as does his ability to endure the personal and professional scorn heaped on him by some of his peers, some of the public and some of the gay fashion community.
I'm more than tired of the Fashion Police, the Who Wore It Better, the Rules of Fashion, the tight little box that no one who has attended middle school can escape without wounds or wild poetry in their blood. It hurts. It's small and often banal, which is far worse than extravagant excess or a bad outfit or, as the beyond great screenwriter Susan Estelle Jansen wrote for Hilary Duff in the Lizzie McGuire Movie, the outfit repeater.
For some horrible reason, my 7th grade PE teacher made us dance once a week in the gym. I don't remember the tune but I have never forgotten the boy who said loudly to me, "you don't know how to dance." He walked off and I don't remember what happened. I do know that I didn't dance again for years. I believed him even though I had taken ballet classes three times a week since I was three.
Years later in a pink dressing room in my Sunset Plaza shop, a very famous and extravagantly beautiful actress said to me, as she scoured her black Dolce & Gabbana dress image in the mirror for faults, that she couldn't wear black because in middle school she'd been teased for having very pale skin. The same translucent angelic appearance that made her a constantly working actress.
Life is short. Wear a bad dress. Wear a purple tux. Wear sequinned shorts and a Thom Browne jacket when you support a foundation that works to prevent teen suicide.
Question beauty and strive to be around it while inflicting no pain on another because of your failure to accept and understand others.
I am choosing to ignore all the Mean Girls because ... oh, because they're stupid. And if you have a Mean Girl in your life, don't accept it and speak very, very loudly to end it. No one should be torn down for amusement. Shout it and make it end. Do it. Make your kids do it.
Congratulations to Mr. Weir for being a great athlete and that Balenciaga collection and the goodness of your life.






































